Cremation
Memorial Options
Memorialization is a
time-honored tradition that has been practiced by caring people
through the centuries. As survivors we care about and want to remember
those who precede us in death. Memorialization helps us to remember
and to be remembered.
Selecting and establishing
a permanent memorial for a family member or loved one not only satisfies
an immediate need, but it also fulfills the need to preserve our
heritage. Memorials are stepping-stones to the past, and to the
future. They link the generations.
Cremation preparation for memorialization
Many people mistakenly
believe that the process of cremation – reducing human remains
to bone fragments – is an end in itself, but it is not. Cremation
is preparation for memorialization just as is traditional burial.
In fact, the options for the final disposition of cremated remains
and the subsequent memorials used to honor them are many and varied.
Cremation Memorials making the selection
It is never too soon
to set up a visual symbol in beautiful surroundings that will perpetuate
cherished memories. But beautiful memorials don't just happen. They
require forethought and planning.
Many families make their
memorial selections in advance so that decision-making can be done
together and can be eliminated during a time of stress. But whether
a memorial purchase is made prior to need or at the time of need,
you will want to be familiar with the many cremation memorial options
that are available.
Columbarium Niche
A columbarium is an
indoor or outdoor wall containing niches. A niche is defined as
a recessed compartment designed to hold urns. Columbariums may be
an entire building, a room, a wall along a corridor or a series
of special alcoves or halls in a mausoleum, chapel, or other buildings
located in a cemetery or on other dedicated property. Niches come
in many sizes with a selection of fronts such as glass, marble,
bronze, granite or mosaic. Glass fronts may be clear, tinted, frosted
or etched. Some columbarium niches are designed for specific size
urns while others may contain a double size space for two urns or
even larger niches for multiple urns. Some clear glass fronted niches
allow meaningful memorabilia to be placed inside along with the
urn.
The Urn Garden
Many cemeteries or memorial
parks have areas designated specifically for the interment of cremated
remains. These areas are called Urn Gardens and are set aside for
those who desire ground or above-ground interment. Some gardens
offer individual urn burial plots that will accommodate a marker.
Others offer unmarked areas for interment of the urn, with adjacent
walls or sculptures for memorial plaques. Check with your cemetery
or memorial park on the types of permanent memorialization they
offer for garden interment of cremated remains.
Family Plot
If you already own a
burial plot or have a space in a family lot, you may choose to inter
the cremation urn there. Cemeteries often permit the interment of
the cremated remains of more than one person in a single adult space.
Or if you wish to be interred in a family plot, but do not want
ground interment, there are monuments available to house the cremated
remains. These monuments can be used for those who have chosen cremation
or in combination with family members who have chosen casketed burial.
Grave site committal
of the urn is available and some cemeteries require that the urn
be placed in an urn vault for interment.
There are a wide variety
of markers and monuments available but you should check your cemetery's
rules before purchasing your memorial. The monument or marker you
select will be a lasting genealogical record for the generations
of your family and a lasting symbol of the special life you want
to remember and commemorate.
The Scattering Garden
In recent years some
cemeteries have opened areas to scatter cremated remains. Called
Scattering Gardens, they provide choices for personal memorialization
within this dedicated property. Often individuals whose remains
have been scattered in the garden are identified on a special memorial
plaque, wall or unique work of art on which the names are inscribed.
Some cemeteries also have benches on which a plaque may be attached
or a living memorial, such as a tree, where a plaque may be placed
in front of it. Some cemeteries offer memorializing an individual
with an entry in a Book of Memories or Remembrance located in a
chapel or mausoleum on the cemetery grounds. These entries, beautifully
executed in calligraphy and often illuminated in the manner of ancient
manuscripts, provide a personal lasting tribute.
The scattering of cremated
remains also may be done at a designated geographical spot on land
or in water in accordance with federal, state/provincial or local
laws. If scattering is done, it is recommended that arrangements
also be made for a permanent memorial that will provide a place
of pilgrimage for those who want to remember and celebrate the life
of a loved one.
Cremation Urns
Urns for the permanent
containment of cremated remains come in a variety of sizes, styles
and materials. In fact, there are urns to satisfy every taste, requirement
and, as well as, every budget.
You may select an urn
from bronze, pewter, marble, granite, brass or from selected hardwoods.
They are also available in porcelain, ceramic, stone, hand-blown
glass and cloisonné. Urns range in size from single to multiple
capacity, and in styling from the traditional book shape and classic
Grecian design to novel creations and decorative art pieces and
can be personalized to depict an individual's hobby or special interest.
Some designs have a matching picture frame to display a photo of
the individual being memorialized.
Keepsake Options
Many urns are also produced
in smaller versions to hold a small portion of the remains. These
are referred to as Keepsake Urns. They are especially appropriate
when only a portion of the cremated remains are to be scattered
or when families choose to divide the cremated remains among family
members.
Other innovative options
available are: Decorative pendants, known as Keepsake jewelry, are
available in a number of styles and are designed to hold a small
portion of cremated remains; Memorial Glass sculptures where a portion
of the cremated remains are permanently embedded in the glass of
these fine art pieces; and Memorial Tablets where the cremated remains
are integrated into a granite-like material suitable for placement
in a cemetery, church memorial garden, or placed in the ground.
Presentation Urns
Presentation urns, which
are large enough to hold a temporary urn, are also available for
use at a memorial or religious service, when a family is undecided
as to the final disposition of the cremated remains.
With so many beautiful
and unique urns available, you may have difficulty in making a selection.
But before making a final decision, it must be decided where the
cremated remains will be placed. If it is going to be placed in
a columbarium niche, what size and shape urn can it accommodate?
Will it be interred in an urn garden or family plot? Do you need
an urn vault? Does your cemetery or columbarium require a specific
type of urn be used? These are some of the things you should take
into consideration before you make your selection.
Cremation Memorial – the lasting tribute
Although the selection
of a cremation memorial may be time-consuming and require some important
decision-making, once it has been accomplished it will give you
and the generations that follow much satisfaction. Permanent memorialization
not only provides a lasting tribute to a loved one, but also gives
peace of mind and a place of pilgrimage. Caring about and remembering
others are what life and memorializing are all about.
*This pamphlet
is posted with permission from http://www.cremationassociation.org
|